Question to Rabbi Leib Tropper:
We are discussing the works of social psychologist, Erich Fromm.
Which of his books were most Creative in you opinion?
Rabbi Leib Tropper Responds:
There are 3 books of his many writings that made an impression on me. The first is ‘To have or to be’, the second is ‘The art of loving’, and the third is ‘Escape From Freedom’
Question to Rabbi Leib Tropper:
In abbreviated manner can you Ttll us what are the main points of these three books that made that impression?
Rabbi Leib Tropper responds:
The notion that loving others is Defined as an ‘art’ is powerful.
The point of that emphasis,according to Fromm,is that ‘loving’ can be learned like art. A behavior which is usually considered non normative and can not be activated on demand, is redefined as normative and
can be learned. It sounds iconoclastic.
Love is the one ‘thing’,according to Erich Fromm, that overcomes the isolation of man being separated from the nourishing environment
of a mother’s womb.
In the Torah world, we find that Rabbi Akiva Eiger ob’m disagrees with characterizing ‘Love’ as normative, activated on demand behavior. Rabbi Akiva Eiger, ob’m believes that with g-d, love is reciprocal and with people, it is inspired by the great character trait of humility.
Rabbi Leib Tropper quotes Fromm as an adversary of the Western
notion of falling in love and hence needs to be learned.
Rabbi Leib Tropper is fascinated by Fromm’s perspective on the ‘Oneness’ of marriage, which today would be claimed to be antiquated.
Rabbi Leib Tropper continues about the other books. ‘To have
Or to be’ is a book that discusses the two modes of existence. One
Is to have…which is defined by our daily pursuit to earn a living
and thus to ‘Have’, albeit the necessary needs for our welfare.
Monetary injustice is engendered by the innate mode of the need to have.
The second mode is to ‘Be,’ which is, for example, ‘Shabbos’ where
we ‘are’ because no acquisitions are made. The Jews, in their difficult journey through the desert, having the exact amount of food for the number of people In their families. There was no market place environment in the desert ,so acquisition was no concern. In the desert Jews Just ‘Were’.
